I am sure you have heard many people who said: "Relationships are difficult!" Unfortunately, that is what most people think.
Why? Because they have never been giving the tools to make it easy.
I teach and write about relationships to earn a living, and when people tell me this, I respond with this:
"Relationships are not difficult, it's the people in relationships that make them difficult."
See the difference? In the first scenario, it implies that all relationships have inherent flaws and, therefore, we have to discover how to solve it.
In the second scenario, it is illuminating the fact that people are imperfect. We all have our insecurities and we take them to our relationships. While this is an inevitable fact of life, it does not mean that we can not learn to overcome them and have a very happy relationship.
Maybe you know happy couples and ask yourself "What do they do that we do not do?" Or maybe you do not even know any happy couple! Either way, I am sure that at some point you have asked yourself what is the secret of the success of a relationship.
I am here to tell you that it is not so difficult. As you'll see in the rest of this article, these are pretty simple things that happy couples do every day. All you need is a conscious thought and desire to be happy and, most importantly, make your partner happy.
If I have your attention for now, then great! I am happy that you are interested in finding the "magic formula" for a happy relationship. You can have that if you just follow these tips.
1. Talk and really listen to others
This sounds simple, right? I mean, why would he start a relationship or marriage with someone he did not want to talk to?
Well, it's much more common than you think.
Take a look at these days. Most couples have their faces on their phones, laptops, video games or some other electronic device. They have more relationship with them than their current partner.
Then, talk to each other. Listen to each other, and I mean, really listen to each other with your brain and your heart.
2. Stay connected throughout the day
I went out with an eleven-year-old boy who, when we were together, everything was great. We got along, everything was flowing, and I thought we really had something special. But the problem was that, when we were separated, I almost never heard from him.
While some people may like the sound of this, it certainly does not create or maintain any kind of intimacy between the two of you. Even if it's a quick text message during the day it asks, "What are you doing?" Or "I'm thinking of you, and I love you!" That is really all that is needed to maintain the connection.
3. Do something together
Unfortunately, as time goes by, many couples live separate lives. Even if they live in the same house, they still live separate lives.
For example, many men have (or want) "Man Cave". While that sounds good, what does it imply?
It implies that you want to be left alone. He does not want his partner to bother him. What kind of message does this convey? I'm not implying that they should join the hip or spend 24/7 together, but that they should participate in activities on a regular basis.
Take a look at these 50 unique and really fun ideas for couples, if you run out of ideas about what you can do with your partner.
4. Express gratitude
I can not stress enough how important this is! Human beings take almost everything for granted: the food on your table, the roof over your head, whatever. Even the people we love the most.
All you need is a simple "thank you" or "I appreciate you!" Even if someone makes you dinner every night, keep saying "Thank you so much for dinner, baby, it was delicious!"
Everyone wants to know that they are appreciated, especially for the things they do every day that can be taken for granted.
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5. Say nice things to each other
Most people like to be congratulated. Sure, not everyone. But even those people deep down want to feel good about themselves.
So, saying things like "you're so beautiful" or "you look sexy in that" goes a long way.
It does not even have to be a compliment per se. If your partner is dedicated to health and fitness, could you say something like: "I really admire your dedication to your health, darling!" It is very important to be positive with one another.
Why? Because they have never been giving the tools to make it easy.
I teach and write about relationships to earn a living, and when people tell me this, I respond with this:
"Relationships are not difficult, it's the people in relationships that make them difficult."
See the difference? In the first scenario, it implies that all relationships have inherent flaws and, therefore, we have to discover how to solve it.
In the second scenario, it is illuminating the fact that people are imperfect. We all have our insecurities and we take them to our relationships. While this is an inevitable fact of life, it does not mean that we can not learn to overcome them and have a very happy relationship.
Maybe you know happy couples and ask yourself "What do they do that we do not do?" Or maybe you do not even know any happy couple! Either way, I am sure that at some point you have asked yourself what is the secret of the success of a relationship.
I am here to tell you that it is not so difficult. As you'll see in the rest of this article, these are pretty simple things that happy couples do every day. All you need is a conscious thought and desire to be happy and, most importantly, make your partner happy.
If I have your attention for now, then great! I am happy that you are interested in finding the "magic formula" for a happy relationship. You can have that if you just follow these tips.
1. Talk and really listen to others
This sounds simple, right? I mean, why would he start a relationship or marriage with someone he did not want to talk to?
Well, it's much more common than you think.
Take a look at these days. Most couples have their faces on their phones, laptops, video games or some other electronic device. They have more relationship with them than their current partner.
Then, talk to each other. Listen to each other, and I mean, really listen to each other with your brain and your heart.
2. Stay connected throughout the day
I went out with an eleven-year-old boy who, when we were together, everything was great. We got along, everything was flowing, and I thought we really had something special. But the problem was that, when we were separated, I almost never heard from him.
While some people may like the sound of this, it certainly does not create or maintain any kind of intimacy between the two of you. Even if it's a quick text message during the day it asks, "What are you doing?" Or "I'm thinking of you, and I love you!" That is really all that is needed to maintain the connection.
3. Do something together
Unfortunately, as time goes by, many couples live separate lives. Even if they live in the same house, they still live separate lives.
For example, many men have (or want) "Man Cave". While that sounds good, what does it imply?
It implies that you want to be left alone. He does not want his partner to bother him. What kind of message does this convey? I'm not implying that they should join the hip or spend 24/7 together, but that they should participate in activities on a regular basis.
Take a look at these 50 unique and really fun ideas for couples, if you run out of ideas about what you can do with your partner.
4. Express gratitude
I can not stress enough how important this is! Human beings take almost everything for granted: the food on your table, the roof over your head, whatever. Even the people we love the most.
All you need is a simple "thank you" or "I appreciate you!" Even if someone makes you dinner every night, keep saying "Thank you so much for dinner, baby, it was delicious!"
Everyone wants to know that they are appreciated, especially for the things they do every day that can be taken for granted.
Do you want to change but do not know where to start?
Our workbook guides you to design the life of your dreams and the change of Kickstart
5. Say nice things to each other
Most people like to be congratulated. Sure, not everyone. But even those people deep down want to feel good about themselves.
So, saying things like "you're so beautiful" or "you look sexy in that" goes a long way.
It does not even have to be a compliment per se. If your partner is dedicated to health and fitness, could you say something like: "I really admire your dedication to your health, darling!" It is very important to be positive with one another.
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